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lil  ·  3728 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How Do You Know You're Really in Love?

I was thinking of it as a kind of #vaguequestionsbypablo homage.





thenewgreen  ·  3728 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I always enjoy seeing those vague questions. This one is a big one and I don't have a good answer. I feel like the "love" that a lot of people are describing here is the early, 6 months to 2 years love. The love that's far more elusive and hard to come by is the love that tests your patience, the love that can look back behind itself and see a tapestry of shared experience. This love doesn't give you butterflies in your stomach and it no longer makes you a "better person", you are the person you are, you realize that after the endorphins subside. Enduring love fits like an old sweater, tattered in places, but still warm and more comfortable than all those new ones hanging in your closet. Sure, once in a while a thread comes bare and pokes at you more than any other thing on earth could, but you'd never change it. Well, almost never.

Enduring love doesn't have you counting the moments between kisses. Enduring love, moves like a glacier, carving a path like a rorschach through the years that only you two can see for what it is. Enduring love is an island that only you two inhabit.

New love is flashy, it's a valentines day card, it too is an island, but you want everyone to visit it, to see what it is you've found. New love is fun, it's exciting and if you are lucky it will happen many, many times in your life.

Enduring love will not happen many times. There's not enough runway.

nowaypablo  ·  3728 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I was kiddinggg with my comment :D this has been a super interesting thread. I'm just at the bit in the hill-and-valley cycle of emotional living where looking up at positive things puts a little sting in the eyes. I'll be fine ;D

lil  ·  3728 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I read it as kidding -- but wait, did I miss something?

    The gummy bear you ate was laced with LSD and you found out when your toes told you.
I thought you had never done acid, but that when you did _refugee_ was going to be your guide. Or someone else. Or maybe I'm thinking of someone else.
nowaypablo  ·  3728 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Haha, I ended up taking it solo in December, I think I mentioned it once in a very weird and slightly uncomfortable thread on drugs a while back. Turns out there's a little jellyfish that lives in the back of my head that was my guide all along ._.