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thenewgreen  ·  3490 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: A post where I share things I don't normally share with people.

    Here's the problem: the "recommendation" is your only option. If you get group therapy and want to do a one on one session your only option is to go elsewhere. If I tried to get help and that happened to me I would not be in a good state because I do not want to be in a group setting for something like this, at all. And to be told I can't get the help I want for whatever reason is a very scary and real possibility that has prevented me from even attempting it.
-Do it and when you go in for the "evaluation," tell them that group sessions aren't an option for you and that you would like to formally request one on one therapy. Say that you want it documented that you made this request. Let them know that the anxiety you are feeling is exacerbated by group settings. That should do the trick I would think.

    you are not alone
-doens't mean that you have people all around you all the time, it just means that others have travelled a similar path and are there for you should you need them.

    It's funny because there have been a lot of people saying that this age is the best age of our lives, and I'm not sure how much I believe it
-Don't believe it. It's a bunch of crap. I like where I am in life right now WAY more than when I was in my early 20s. I have way better developed mental/social skills, way more resources and much closer friends. -Some of whom are the same ones from back then, but time definitely enhances friendship. The people that tell you that life is the best in college must not have done much after...

I know I've mentioned this before on Hubski but I really can't recommend the book The Power of Now highly enough. I was having very similar bouts of negative internal dialog type stuff and it really helped me. If you PM me your address I'll send you a copy. My pleasure.



ButterflyEffect  ·  3489 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That is a great idea. If I have time tomorrow I'm going to try for it. Hoping to go for a run and I have a co-op reflection meeting in the morning so we'll see. If not then it'll have to wait until Thursday. I'm pretty convinced the reason they operate that way now is because of an increase in people seeking help, while their funding has been stagnant from the University.

    The people that tell you that life is the best in college must not have done much after...

Not necessarily true. Some of them are my cousins and their fiances/wives/etc. and these people are Doctors, CPAs, Engineers, and so on and so forth who from what I can tell are living great lives. It's weird hearing it from them. The rest are Professors and Administrative peole here. I'll send you a pm sometime tonight!

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thenewgreen  ·  3489 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    Not necessarily true. Some of them are my cousins and their fiances/wives/etc. and these people are Doctors, CPAs, Engineers, and so on and so forth who from what I can tell are living great lives. It's weird hearing it from them. The rest are Professors and Administrative peole here. I'll send you a pm sometime tonight!
I know and interact with a lot of doctors, professionals etc and they're like any other group, some live full lives and others don't. A lot of people over romanticize college life because of the free time they had, the amount of options in front of them etc but they completely and conveniently forget what a ball of nerves they were.

You're a smart and capable person so I don't mean to insult you when I say that most men or women at your stage in life aren't as well adjusted as they will be later in life. You just aren't. I certainly wasn't. I was soooo insecure.

Was college fun? Hell yeah, it was. Was it also emotionally trying? -Y-E-S. I recall standing on a cliff at Glacier National Park and thinking, "I can make this all stop and people might think it was an accident."

I'm so glad I didn't.

It gets better. If you will it, it is no dream. -dude.

I'll be on the lookout for that PM

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