What people do not realize, I think, is that being nice doesn't work. Politely informing someone of the ways in which they are bigoted will literally do nothing. You will be ignored. I have far more sympathy towards angry activists than I do for their critics - and believe me, there are a lot of those.the main issue that I have with what the feminist movement has become.
A lot of people say this.
You're absolutely right, it's virtually impossible to find an objectively optimal balance of aggression and level-headedness. I admit that I am too easily annoyed, and even though I sympathize with the cause, it's difficult to find ways to be pro-active about it. Especially in Texas. Or maybe that gives me more opportunities? From everything I've seen, it's largely generational, and improving, but of course not at a fast enough rate. Maybe the best thing for me to do is continue to strive to exhibit equal treatment. I'm trying, but could always stand to try harder and be more mindful of the situation.
YES! I was just talking about this with my wife, about how people get so upset about so called "radical feminists". These feminists don't have a space to speak in most places. They do not get invited to speak about their issues, and get ignored if they ever do get the chance. So of course a disenfranchised group is being loud when they are ignored at every turn in every situation.