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NikolaiFyodorov  ·  448 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: When I Stopped Trying to Self-Optimize, I Got Better

"When most people think about getting better, they think about adding pieces onto themselves. What I'm saying is, think about better as the first thing you do is you have to cut off a limb. You do surgery on yourself with a pocket knife. What you're doing is you're cutting out that thing that you held as true that wasn't. You first have to eliminate that. When you do there's a vacuum, and into that vacuum you can place something that's true. Most people don't want to do that work. But if you do that work, you're forever transformed." Source - Discussion starts at about 22.45.