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kantos  ·  279 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: July 18, 2018

What happened since the Pubski relationship update:

I met up with the girl friend (emphasis on the space), and cleared the air on the intent of my boundary. I gave myself a condition in continuing to see her, "I must be more aggressive about seeking a meaningful relationship." What this looked like is returning to online dating with a better medium suited to what I'm looking for alongside major profile improvements.

Also found this little gem on the subject:

Overboard? Maybe, though it did work out for her. Seriously contemplating it after my move since the profile improvement DID net me more hits, but with people that I wasn't interested in.

That all said, I had a thought a couple minutes ago, "I spent the past 2 months or so working to meet said girl friend where she was. In doing so, I'm actively seeking intimacy from someone other than her despite both confessing attraction separately and maintaining a 'friendship.' If I do this with the dating app ordeal (which will lead to physically lead to actively going out and meeting people if it fails), then what makes me any different than her? Do I even want that?"

So, that's where I'm at. Wondering whether effectively mirroring her behavior is really worth it in order to pick up where we left off, and if it's not where does that leave me.