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AnSionnachRua  ·  2576 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: I dreamt of a girl

    I look for female company, for a multitude of reasons I don't entirely understand.

;)

    One day, she let me into her inner world. She told me it bothered her that people thought that she uses them and leaves them on their own once she's done

I have noticed that a lot of people who do use people and then move on feel like this. They tend to confess at some point in search of reassurance.

    It was never about me. It was about me and other people, about how we interact, how we attract each other.

Yes! You needn't be so hard on yourself. Moving on and falling out of touch with people is part of life - and transience doesn't mean lack of truth.





user-inactivated  ·  2576 days ago  ·  link  ·  

It's not that I don't realize I'm looking for intimacy, whether romantic, sexual or both. It's that female company to me is much more important than male. I've had maybe fifteen close female friends and only two male.

    You needn't be so hard on yourself.

I'm not. It took me a while to figure out that people could be bad to me, too; it's not just me not putting enough effort in. It made life a lot easier to sort out.

I wish you and I had crossed path on Hubski before: learning that there are, in fact, people who use other people and look for reassurance afterwards would've made my time back then a lot easier.