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user-inactivated  ·  3025 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Can we love others without loving ourselves?

If you're helping someone just because it makes you feel good, you're doing something wrong. It's called "living through others" and is not healthy nor brings happiness.

You can only truly love someone once you, yourself, are whole as a person. This means that whatever love you feel for someone comes for striving for something bigger than yourself.





mbalex  ·  3025 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm not necessarily saying people help others for the sole purpose of feeling good, but it's definitely a result and may even be a subconscious driving factor.

user-inactivated  ·  3025 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    but it's definitely a result and may even be a subconscious driving factor.

It is and it is. There's nothing wrong with enjoying a good thing. You can make a good thing - an axe, a computer program or a good joke - and enjoy its existence. How is helping others different?