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randomuser  ·  3099 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How much of your identity are you hiding? How much of it do you display?

The whole first section of your post sounds like me when I was 14-18. Kind of funny, black contrasting lighter black. That's similar to wearing two different hues of Blue together, can get interesting. I need my blacks to math when I wear them or I won't wear black on black as I think it looks a little weird and one always almost looks faded in comparison.

    Perhaps from those failed attempts at gathering fake interest I've learned that it matters not what I wear if I wear it to impress others. They don't give a shit, and neither they should. Clothes are just that; you're talking to the person within.

Unfortunately, this statement is not really coherent with reality. Clothes should be just clothes, but they're not. People 100% judge you for what you wear and the way you groom yourself. I guess from the regard that it doesn't matter to you, then you may have a point, but people treat suited generally better than ragged. I'm definitely guilty of this as well, not necessarily with people but with other things like plants/trees I think are pretty, and the clothes that I pick to dress myself in. I have a super intense facial structure and ime the clothes that I put on vastly change the treatment/sociability of others towards me.(whether or not I agree with it I realize that is how it is)

    Now I wear bright stuff when I feel good. One might consider it an appearance diode which lights up when the proper energy flows to it. It's telling that I haven't worn the bright stuff in weeks and that I want to now. Surviving among people takes quite a bit, so maybe it will change once I return from the holiday.

This part makes perfect sense. I tend to like brighter things/colors when I'm happy and darker ones when I'm not.





user-inactivated  ·  3099 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Oh, don't get me wrong: I pick what I wear carefully, for aspects that I enjoy being associated with, and so do others. One can even infer what you are - or, at least, what you present yourself as - from what you wear. What I mean to say is - it's not as powerful a story as people make of it, and it certainly shouldn't impact how you treat a person. It does, very often, but it shouldn't: humans are humans, whatever they wear; it's not the color of their hat and not the silk of their jacket that makes them what they are.

randomuser  ·  3099 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Ok I think that is a bit more clearly stated lol. I would agree that clothes don't make you who you are, but they definitely affect others perspective, at least initially, of you. Which can in turn affect how you view yourself.

It's like the whole rose by any other name thing. Yeah, it would smell as sweet, but it wouldn't be a rose if we called it something else. Would it?

user-inactivated  ·  3098 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    It's like the whole rose by any other name thing. Yeah, it would smell as sweet, but it wouldn't be a rose if we called it something else. Would it?

One would be miserable to wear suits if one doesn't enjoy it. Therefore, however you call the person, the social smell of theirs won't change no matter what they wear - unless they haven't been something other than a rose already. You see what I mean?

randomuser  ·  3098 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I got you. Granted I don't know that many guys who don't feel like James Bond when they put on a tux, lol.

user-inactivated  ·  3098 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I feel horrible in it. Like a goddamn prison right over my skin. Don't move or this will fall out, don't bend over or your bloody napkin falls out... Nasty feeling.

randomuser  ·  3093 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That's a bad suit.

user-inactivated  ·  3092 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Bad feeling for a suit, rather. Tried multiple, at different times - none worked. Nothing against a suit on anybody, but I'd rather not.

randomuser  ·  3092 days ago  ·  link  ·  

My suits are all very comfortable. That's what I meant by bad. I was just walking around Rome in a vest/button down. The shirts are especially awesome because they are made out of insanely soft, light fabric.