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caeli  ·  3383 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Without people's attention, I feel incomplete

    I suggest you give it another thought, this time giving my problems the respect and space they deserve

Well see this is sort of what ref was getting at. It's pretty narcissistic to say that you deserve to be respected. I'm not trying to say you're a terrible person or anything, just pointing out that it's this behavior that turns people off. No one has an obligation to be patient with you, but this seems to sort of be what you're expecting, so then frustration ensues for all parties.





user-inactivated  ·  3383 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    It's pretty narcissistic to say that you deserve to be respected.

I can see how it is now. I believe that everyone should get an equal amount of baseline respect as per the idea of credit of respect. In your opinion, how do I best communicate this idea? Should it ever be vocal, or must it always remain subtle?

caeli  ·  3383 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Well, I'm not sure. Given past interactions I've seen between you and ref you two don't really seem to get along to begin with, so I'm not really sure it's worth either of your time to keep bickering about this kind of stuff...

user-inactivated  ·  3383 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'd like to learn how to express the idea in the most effective way in most context. I'm asking your advice not for my and ref's sake, but for my own solely. Whether I come to apply it when it comes to ref is irrelevant to message you were replying to, as I didn't put such meaning in it.