a thoughtful web.
Good ideas and conversation. No ads, no tracking.   Login or Take a Tour!
comment by user-inactivated
user-inactivated  ·  3155 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Can someone explain to me what the hell is up with the Dota 2 community?

    It doesn't usually work.

What happens immediately after that?





Fallexe  ·  3155 days ago  ·  link  ·  

It's not like this is me giving a lecture - it's more like a conversation. Like any conversation topics drift. But maybe to give an example, If I say "I don't think homosexuality is wrong according to the bible" then the response is usually either "why? What about..." or "you are wrong." If it's something like the first - great we can have a conversation about this! If it's the second, I say "we'll maybe you're right" then depending on the context either shrug it off or justify my position with a short sentence such as "Romans chapter 1 is ambiguous." That allows the other person to discuss or not discuss the topic as far as they are comfortable with it without hurting the friendship.

user-inactivated  ·  3155 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Do you believe in friendship with bigots being worthwhile?

Fallexe  ·  3155 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  

No, I think that friendships with people who believe differently from me are valuable.

For me, I view a persons beliefs as a result of upbringing and culture plus biological tendencies.

If I isolate myself from "bigots" not only do I lose access to people who might actually be right (albeit partially) I also lose the ability to help change their views.

EDIT - in my personal story, people who took the time to befriend me in spite of my bigoted beliefs changed my values, albeit after many years....