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arguewithatree  ·  3434 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: "This Is An All-Inclusive Space,” Says All-White, All-Male Audience

ok it's satire and you've clearly missed the joke. but if you want to get into it:

the article intentionally points out that only white, cis, men attended. the punk scene is NOTORIOUSLY terrible for women, non-binary/non-gender conforming folx, and non straight people. that's not to say that punk isn't popular with that demographic. that's to say that spaces full of white cis men push others out with their behavior, so those people create their own spaces. just because you declare a space "safe" and non discriminatory, that doesn't make it so. that's what the article is lampooning. all these hypothetical dudes have said this place is now safe! but it doesn't matter because only cis white dudes showed up, broadcasting that same unsafe message.





tla  ·  3434 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I wish people would realize that saying something is safe doesn't make something safe.

I mean, I've seriously lost count of the number of people who are adamant they're not racist who come out with something culturally insensitive and get really upset that someone politely points this out to them. Or who argue with a person of color over whether some seemingly innocuous interaction "deserves" to be part of the thousand papercuts that drives their anxiety.

Or guys who are sure they don't behave in a sexist manner who get really confused and upset when a woman refuses a drink they brought to her from the bar. They promise it's perfectly safe, as though that's definitely not a thing that someone with bad intentions would do.

Or the folk who think they're lgbt friendly because they believe in and vote for marriage equality who also ask so many questions about the details of lgbt people's lives because they're sooo curious and care so much that they don't realize that they're acting like they're in a zoo.

I don't blame any person of color for not trusting I won't say something racist, or any lgbt person for not trusting that I won't treat them as an exhibit, or even other women for not trusting that I won't side with Mr Nice Guy.

I don't blame them because I know my word cannot ever be enough.

arguewithatree  ·  3434 days ago  ·  link  ·  

i don't think that's a hard concept to understand but people prove over and over again that the blinders of privilege are so strong.

tla  ·  3434 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Ignorance is bliss. It's hard to give up bliss.

arguewithatree  ·  3434 days ago  ·  link  ·  

especially when it keeps you from critical self-examination

tla  ·  3434 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    critical self-examination

You know, I haven't been in school since once upon a time in a land far away. But I seem to recall this being a virtue drummed in to us. When did that stop?

arguewithatree  ·  3434 days ago  ·  link  ·  

tbh i don't know if they taught that to us when i went to school. it took a lot of exploration on my own to realize that my narrative isn't the only narrative. you wouldn't think it's that hard but i'm still learning things all the time. i have to chase that knowledge though and never be complacent

ixnar  ·  3434 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    the punk scene is NOTORIOUSLY terrible for women, non-binary/non-gender conforming folx, and non straight people

This isn't the punk scene I know, but maybe things work different there across the pond? Everything else if spot on tho

arguewithatree  ·  3434 days ago  ·  link  ·  

A good friend of mine published an awesome zine for her Honors Capstone that illustrated this. Idk if I can find it online but I'll try

aidrocsid  ·  3434 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I didn't miss the joke, I think the premise of the joke is ignorant.