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ecib · 4641 days ago · link · · parent · post: Things I’m Expected To Do for Cis People in Return for Their Not Hating Me: An Angry List
I used to work at a rather massive 2,000 person capacity nightclub years ago. It eventually closed and the two owners eventually opened another club and asked me to work there as well. The second one was a gay club, and being one of only two straight guys working there it was really interesting. As a barback, I was often in the basement where we kept the liquor and the dressing rooms for trans performers that ran the whole gamut of the trans spectrum. I was always struck by how different the trans individuals were in their language from the gay dudes. Waaaay more pc and respectful. More thoughtful in general it seemed to me. The bartenders would toss around the word 'faggot' with each other much like some black people use drop n-bombs left and right. The trans performers though didn't really do that, and after reading your post I wonder if it's because they may take labels a lot more seriously? I dunno.
newgameplus · 4640 days ago · link ·
The idea of political correctness is intrinsically linked to identity politics. Particularly the notion that people should be able to self-identify. If a person would rather be called African American than black, then really it's only polite to do so. Self-identification is an essential part of being trans. It follows that trans people would generally be more conscious of this, and it's generally been my experience too. Although, of course, they're are still plenty of trans people who aren't PC.
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That makes a lot of sense. My sister is gay, and I remember talking to my dad when he found out. He was upset at his perception that life was going to be harder on her because of other people out there. I had to underscore to him how far society has come, how she has a very large social network of gay friends, and how it just didn't have quite the stigma he imagined it did in this younger generation. I mean, she just was not facing adversity on a daily basis and really hasen't been as far as she's concerned. I know I couldn't have made that same argument if she was trans. It seems to me a tougher line to walk based on everything I've seen. Hopefully it won't stay that way much longer.