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water  ·  3566 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Editor's blog: I am sexist Let's talk about how, why and what I'm doing about it.

    "Place a hogtied woman on the train tracks, and witness her death by train."... You cannot gain the achievement by performing this act on a man.

No words, It's hard to really explain what I feel from that, that's just, shocking....

    He says that he is a little bit racist, but he realises he is slightly less racist than his father, who was slightly less racist than his father, and he observes that this is progress.

I think this is complacency.

    I will have to keep fighting this thing about myself. I will make mistakes along the way - my id will take over and I'll say the wrong thing from time to time.... I've come to terms with my own sexism.

Why stop at coming to terms, extirpate it.

I recognize the editor is admitting, "I'm sexist, I regret my actions", and it's notable that he's putting this out there in the hopes that others will make personal progress at recognizing the casual and gross sexism that exists in our societies. But the tone of this piece gave me the impression that while he acknowledges it, he won't ever be able to eliminate it.

He says:

    I will make mistakes along the way - my id will take over and I'll say the wrong thing from time to time.

Preemptively apologizing for things that haven't occurred, for me, speaks to some sort of lack of resolution or lack of conviction at saying "I see what I'm doing wrong now and I'm done.", maybe it's a lack of confidence. I feel like a mindset of resolve is what will eventually conquer the wrongful nature that this person is becoming aware of.