However, it is anti-gay discriminatory behavior. Someone might in their heart-of-hearts not feel the least bit anti-gay, but fail to recognize that denying marriage equality is in fact, anti-gay behavior. You see this all the time in Detroit. White people from the suburbs who know without a doubt that they aren't anti-black, fail to treat blacks as their equals. Talk is talk. Ignorance does not absolve you of the consequence of your actions. You can harbor no ill-will towards homosexuals, and yet treat them in an inequitable manner. If so, your actions, are anti-gay. You are functionally anti-gay.
This is my exact issue with this article, thank you. I was having trouble expressing it myself, as exhausted as I am, and I'm glad to see people agreeing. Having compassion and love for something 'despite' some part of who they are as a person that you see as wrong or flawed is not really the kind of compassion and love I personally want, and I'd imagine a lot of people agree. My sexuality and gender identity, while not necessarily defining me as a person, is integral to who I am. It is not something that I choose nor can I change it. By ignoring something so important to me, you ignore who I am.