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arguewithatree · 3780 days ago · link · · parent · post: Is saying "thank you" to childless women sympathetic or patronizing?
As a woman who does not want children, I would hate to hear this. While more often than not, I'm told I'm either being immature or that I don't know what I want yet for saying I don't want children in my early 20's, I also don't want to get pats on the back for standing up for my autonomy. This whole thing reeks of gross self-congratulation.
I read into it as her thanking us for realizing that we aren't responsible or adult enough to fulfill our child-bearing duties. I agree with the "self congratulatory" way you saw the blog. I'm just not sure that in 2013, with the large extant swaths of disadvantaged children, why it's considered a "duty" to reproduce.