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fr33lunch  ·  3817 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: "Why I'm not proud of being gay"
I'm somewhere between MK and scarp on this one. Pride for your heredity is foolish and arrogant, but being proud for having the courage to come out as gay is something else. At the very least that deserves pride in yourself.

For one of my friends, it was as simple as telling her mom--who was also gay. My uncle had a very difficult time with it. My uncle has lived with the same "roommate" for the last 40 years. He grew up in the Catholic church, during a time that such self-actualizations did not happen in public. To this day, no one speaks of it. That is a shame.

scarp  ·  3816 days ago  ·  link  ·  
I think I see where you're coming from; there is a pride in the courage it takes to come out and to identify as gay, and that pride is hard-earned and ought to be celebrated. I agree! I think this all ties in with being confident and courageous, but I won't disagree that there is some healthy pride in that as well. :)