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comment by Kafke
Kafke  ·  3856 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Friends Without Benefits

This article is pretty ridiculous.

    Alone in her room, the night before, reading her friends’ Twitter feeds and watching YouTube videos (Selena Gomez and “baby animals being cute”), she’d started feeling lonely, restless, and bored. “Sometimes I just want to talk to a guy so bad.” So she downloaded the app and started swiping through the pictures of boys in her area. She “hearted” his picture, and within a few minutes he had hearted hers, and then they were instantly texting.

    “Ur hot,” he wrote. “U wanna meet?”

    “When?”

Really? No conversation, just "wanna meet?" I can't imagine hooking up with someone without getting to know them first.

    “When a boy likes your [Facebook] profile pic or almost anything you post, it means that they’re stalking you, too. Which means they have interest in you,” said Zoe.

What the hell is going on here?! That is definitely not how my friends and I use facebook. For either gender.

    where boys are taught they have the right to expect everything from social submission to outright sex from their female peers. What is this doing to America’s young women?

I dunno about that. If anything online dating has basically made it a competition between males. And the females get to choose the "winner". If anything, this is just giving them more power to decide who "makes the cut".

I'm guessing that on this "Tinder" app, there's probably a ratio of about 1 female for every 4-5 males. This'd make it pretty difficult for males to find a match and easy for females. This is usually how it goes for dating sites as well.

Nonetheless, the whole premise of the article is absurd. I understand dating sites, but random hook ups is baffling.

Anonymous chat (like omegle) can be fun sometimes, but in the few (10-20) times I've used it, it sexual content hasn't come up once. And it allows for selection of topics you are interested in, making it easy to get a conversation going.