First of all congratulations to you both, I enjoyed reading your way of announcing and your enthusiasm was palpable.

I will handle your questions one at a time:

1. What do you guys think about marriage? -I think it's a very serious commitment, until it isn't. Do not get to the isn't.

2. Is it a silly cultural prescription? -Only if you treat it as such. That's all up to you. My wife and I always say that "marriage is an island." What we mean by that is that it is ours and ours alone. We are the only two in it. My marriage is far from perfect, we bicker and can genuinely get on one another's nerves, but I never tell my friends or others about our disputes. Why? Because it's our island and we work through them together. -Or if really need be, with someone that is trained to listen and be objective. But it's an island and it belongs to the two of you. Take good care of it.

3. Want a traditional reception and ceremony? -Just make it yours would be my advice to anyone, whether you are eloping or renting a "hall" that performs 3 weddings a week. Somehow, put your stamp on it. Enjoy it and try and be present.

4. Trying not to think about it? -Why? Think about it. It's a pretty huge step you just took. Own it, it can be wonderful.

5. Is it a super big deal? -Yep

6. Is it boring? -That's like asking if life is boring. It's everything... boring, exciting, fun, tedious, hard-work, rewarding, surprising, exciting etc.

7. Destined for divorce? -Depends on a lot of factors, not the least of which is your resolve to stay married.

8. Is it useful? -Sure. I've been married for 8 years now and we have a history that we share. I suppose that is useful. But if someone is getting married because they think it is useful, they're fucked.

Enjoy this day, enjoy tomorrow and enjoy your life together. Marriage rocks and if you have any friends that tell you otherwise, don't ask them about it anymore. Guys that complain about their wives suck.