But that's part of the problem, right? No one sees that what's good for the goose is good for gander.

I read both the NY Times and the Wall St. Journal almost everyday. One is a funhouse mirror version of the other, except you don't know which is the undistorted image. Or if they both are. The media spheres occupied by either side would have you believe that all of the country's problems are solely the fault of "the left" or "the right", while neither wants to get at the root of the problem, which is mostly that we lack a unifying set of agreed upon principles by which to live. Free speech is great, but only if we sort know the rules of the game, and while no topics are illegal, some are just not acceptable in society ("Jews will not replace us", e.g., to pick on conservatives again).

Ideas aren't to be feared, and we should be able to debate any ideas, even if just to confirm to ourselves that they're bad. But unruly mobs are to be feared, and we've seen plenty of evidence of what unruly mobs are capable of over the last several years. It is unfortunately much easier to coalesce around an unruly mob than around a political or cultural debate.