I have not been a single man in a long time, so I'm not terribly familiar with the current "dating culture", but my guess is that not much has changed. If the women that you interact with tend to be shallow or "picky", then perhaps you are fishing in the wrong ponds. My wife is beautiful, intelligent and really funny. By all accounts I out punted my coverage -a term I recently learned when a guy friend told me I had. I couldn't have met someone like her at a bar or even at a skeptics meeting, she just isn't the type to go to one (skeptical as she may be). So, if these guys aren't having luck with what they're doing, change your behaviors. Simple.
But theres no justification for any "rape culture" or for treating women poorly because they hold a difference of opinion. That's ridiculous. Rebecca Watson, if you're out there, stop by Hubski sometime... we play nice.