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_refugee_  ·  2253 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Why American men are getting less marriageable

I mean, I know I'm an anecdote, but I don't care that much what the guy I'm dating makes. I actually try not to know. The chef with bad teeth I slept with for 8 months last year I think bragged to me about how great his new/current job was because it was a $45k/year salary position. This was a substantial raise for him from his previous wage (I had no idea whatever that had been). Also, he was 34, not 24, which makes a difference when we're talking about earnings. I mean, to me, $45k/year is solid, but it's not a pinnacle.

Ben, I haven't dated a guy who made more than me in 5, maybe even more years.

Hell, 2-3 years ago I dated a cashier from my work cafeteria for a solid 6 months and really, really, liked him. He was paid real cheap. Like $10-12 an hour cheap? Not always 40 hours/week guaranteed? It didn't bother me at all. (But things did bother him. He wanted someone who made him feel more needed. Finances is one way that happens. He liked manic pixie dream girls, basically)

I know, I know, I'm supremely special and all, but still... I don't think it's all the women causing this. I think it's both.