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tacocat  ·  2312 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: The unexamined brutality of the male libido

    Freud also understood that repression, any repression, is inherently fluid and complicated and requires humility and self-searching to navigate

Bingo! How many people of any gender examine their motives and behavior critically? Almost none in my experience unless they have some wake up call and realize they're fucked up and seek some kind of help.

I've done things in the past in regards to women that I'm truly ashamed of but that I didn't see a problem with at the time. Later when I was more mature, and also after hearing about some experiences women have had, I reexamined what I'd done and I'm not a fucking bastion of enlightened feminism, I'm just a dude and I do dude stuff. And some of that stuff is really shitty. And I don't want to do it again. But I might have if I hadn't seen my own actions reflected in some really awful behavior, not that it was the same or as extreme, but I can see my own traits and behaviors in those of other people that aren't 1:1 correlations.

I'm introspective and reflective by nature so I'm prone to some self examination and navel gazing and regretting. But it's super easy for anyone to blow through life and never think about anything going on that's not five minutes in the past or future. I do that. But I sometimes think about why I did something and if it was a shit thing to do.

#wokeasfuck

#iwinthewokenesscontest

#imjokingyouaspies