I'll wade my way in here at the top level comment.

As a mutherfucking "coastal elite" I'm about DONE being hectored and blamed and pilloried and lambasted and criticized and concern-trolled and otherwise dragged through the mud because of the way OTHER PEOPLE voted.

My two cents is the blame isn't intended to be on you or you collectively (as you and peers like you). I see it as aimed at Democratic strategists. You mentioned Scott Walker in another comment. The Democratic Party put up a bland candidate against him twice. Is it your fault there wasn't someone better? Certainly not. Was it mine? As a Wisconsin resident, maybe more blame falls my way, but there isn't much I can do, either. I see the blame falling on the party leadership.

At my company we have contingency plans and career development plans. If my manager retires or takes a different position, we know how to fill that gap. If I (as a more senior employee) leave the company, there are plans in place to ensure key work still gets done.

Where is that in the DNC? Who is looking in state houses for the next Congressperson? Who is looking in the House for the next Senator? Is anyone grooming people for the next Governor rnlr race? It seems like the answer is "nobody." And I think that's the coastal elite criticism. The party has an intent but no plan.