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goobster  ·  3198 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How am I to be less needy? How do I make friends?

    I've always wanted to help people, and I do feel good when I do.

You will be surprised what happens to your social anxiety when you help other people. And, when volunteering, you find yourself surrounded by like-minded people. So that thing that seemed like such an obstacle, or a hurdle you couldn't jump, becomes nothing more than a pebble that you can step right over.

I am - as you can probably tell - a very outgoing, opinionated, and boisterous person. Shyness is never something I have had to deal with.

So when I am in a situation, and I see a shy person stepping up, and trying something new, I support them. I welcome them, encourage them, and make them feel valuable and valued.

What I am saying is that sometimes all you need to do is make yourself available, and someone like me will take the opportunity to help you out. It's not all your responsibility to overcome every single detail. Let the helpers help you out, as well.