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matjam  ·  3185 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Me [31 M] with my girlfriend [29 F] of 3 years, am I wasting her life?

So many cynical replies here, telling you to run.

A lot of women feel pressured to kind of get married by the time their 30, so they can start having babies. Remember that she's got about 10 years. Not much time to find another guy, make sure he's the right guy, that she can live with, settle down, start spawning. You've obviously in the "good enough" basket, warts and all. That's something.

Talk to her. Make sure she wants you to marry her for the right reasons. I was pressured into marrying my wife, and 8 years down the line, we divorced. You both have to be ready for it. It sucks if one of you is not. You really need to talk to her about your feelings. There may be other things wrong in your life that you feel need to be fixed before you are able to commit to her! You might think you need to do X or Y, before you can commit. You might feel that you can't do those things if you're married. Talk to her. Not to us. Talk to her. Be honest, and try not to be too emotional about it. You do love her, right?