Thanks for your perspective and clearing some things up for me. I think I have a better understanding of her experience.

Let me know if I'm incorrect in any way.

+ The women's restroom is a stark contrast to the rest of the restaurant - the writer feels that they are trying too hard to counter balance the masculine feel of the rest of the building by diving deep into stereotypical feminine decor.

+ She is afraid of guns. I'm interested in that since she says she grew up in rural America, I think?

+ Flash your Caspers = smiling. I've never heard that expression before, but I understand now, maybe.

I can't remember the last time I thought of food as masculine or feminine. Maybe that's just me. I do sort of recall the trope from TV shows or something of that nature. I always viewed those kinds of BBQ joints a representation of a southern American family gathering, where everything is on paper plates and even grandma is eating with her hands.

I don't necessarily believe that he needs to be all-inclusive. There are plenty of places that cater to a specific audience. It's not that he's excluding anyone, but celebrating a certain group for a day. Plenty of other groups do the same and don't feel the need to then "balance" their activities by reading some white supremacy books. I think I'm really thinking about this for much more than what the author intended. Sorry if it comes off as douchey.