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lil  ·  3474 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What does it mean to forgive?

    I'm under the impression that forgiving oneself would be similar to forgiving another, but I could be wrong.

B_C -This above quote raises questions as does this one:

    Those who I love most have already forgiven me, which is the strange part. They've forgiven me but I have yet to do so for myself.
I think forgiving others is very different from forgiving ourselves.

We forgive others so that we are not personally weighed down with resentment for their past behaviour.

We forgive others because sometimes we can see the bigger context of their behaviour and perhaps see that we too had some part in it.

We forgive others because we love them and want to continue a renewed relationship with them -- we forgive them, but we are a little more cautious in our dealings with them. We learn to protect ourselves.

So yes, forgiving others is different. How do we forgive ourselves? (and I too have done foolish bad things, so:)

By "community service" - what I actually mean is doing more good than bad, actively going beyond the comfortable to help others, making amends perhaps indirectly. Daily. Consciously moving in the direction of goodness.

What's done cannot be undone, as Lady MacBeth says.

Sadly, there's no liquid paper for bad behaviour. Unblock those chakras with good deeds.

Does that make any sense?

I'll check out that book.