As kleinbl00 mentioned I generally drink the koolaid while trying to be fully aware that I am drinking koolaid. I think what my boss was trying to tell me, in many more words, was essentially that I need to drink more.

Become the kool-aid and let others drink you. Some guy did that a while back and I hear his company has been pretty successful over the years (this is a Jesus thing). A joke, but still . . .

For those of you that know me on Hubski it may also tickle you to know that my boss told me, essentially, that I need to be less of a hardass. "You catch more flies with honey than vinegar." (I did actually say "Let me put this in my own words...Don't be a hardass, right?" to her.)

. . . yeah, I can't be the only one who inferred that you would be that type. It's not a bad thing. Hell, I've been like that too, especially in roles where I had a personal stake in the thing. That job I was talking about elsewhere in the thread, I was pretty tough on both my employers and on my clients and at times it did hurt the way that things went. I think that this is something a lot of young professionals go through.