I always knew why a relationship couldn't last by the end of the first date. When I started dating my wife I hadn't a clue why we would part. I don't pretend to have any advice on love, I pretty much just fell into it. I know that my wife and I rarely fight, so many other couples I know fight all the time. My wife and I discuss things outside our life all the time like politics, science, art, music and any other thing that might catch our fancy. We enjoy (take joy in) each others differing perspectives. Since the baby we talk way too much about the kid but I think that is probably normal. I actually want to know how her day at work has been. There are more stresses than ever in our relationship (a kid being the biggest one) but I feel no fear that the woman I've chosen to spend my life with will turn away from me and I could never imagine wanting to be with anyone but her. I think that as you get older you are more likely to see things as they are instead of what you might hope they could be. Harder to fall in love but more like to find one that's true but like I said I have no advice on love.