My "in my generation" rule really means, "in my decade" (til I near the upper end). It's essentially a 10-year window that should fall around my age. I dated older guys for a long time, and I kept going older and older, and when I left that relationship I decided I wanted to give guys my age a real try.

If you aren't aware of fears that are running your life, then you aren't really allowing them (consciously) to run it, are you? And of course some fears, like say car accidents, are actually kind of reasonable.

So, in general I'm not a big phone call person. Although I pass my required hearing tests I don't have great situational hearing. Often on phones it would be even worse. I basically stopped calling boys after high school until I met and swooned over a guy who would call me just to talk whenever he had a spare moment. I guess he liked phone calls.

Even then I never took up the habit for myself. I'm not a big caller even among family. So I guess my stance on phone calls is I don't make them - unless I need something immediately, like directions or someone isn't answering their texts. I'll take them, sure, if it's convenient, and I'll talk for as long as the conversation goes on, but I could take 'em or leave 'em on the whole.

With the texts, I really hate feeling like I am hanging around always checking my phone JUST IN CASE specialpersonx has decided to hit me up. I'm going to go out and have fun. I don't want to get hung up on "Oh I texted him an hour ago and I didn't hear back." My solution to that is I text once, maybe twice, and don't text again until I hear from the person. And like I said, if I'm the one always texting first I cut that shit out. kleinbl00 is spot on about dating/power, except I've always thought that the person who cared less had more power. Not caring about texts/contact was in my mind an outcrop of that.

Though recently it's come to my attention that some guys I are perhaps a bit thrown that I don't initiate texting them. It's like they expect the girl to open up the lines of communication - but once they're opened, communication goes freely in each way. For some reason I guess the girl is supposed to start it? I guess girls text more. I don't know.