a thoughtful web.
Good ideas and conversation. No ads, no tracking.   Login or Take a Tour!
comment
Meriadoc  ·  3697 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Rape Culture is Real

It's not a 'better than/worse than' situation, it's a simple matter of constructive versus non constructive dialogue. Saying "there are issues with this but it would be circular to point them out" is like "well, you're wrong because, c'mon, I can't even say why." It doesn't add anything and adds no perspective except "WRONG I'M BETTER!"

But the bigger problem is your doing this on a feminist article; a social justice article, and that kind of behavior is common in systems of oppression. It's a microcosm for attempts to silence dissent. Instead of granting the oppressed or downtrodden a voice, the majority simply refuses to acknowledge them and their opinions or open a discussion on it, but still make sure it's known to those trying to make better that you do not value them and are looming, facelessly and anonymously. It's almost a threat, and it discourages other people to have their thoughts known. That's a big, big issue. Every perspective should be heard and sifted through, even if you don't agree with it. Every idea worth holding today was despised and silenced at one point or another.

It's what's known as a microaggression, as it's not a big deal, small enough that getting called out for it can cause someone to ask what the big deal is, it was minor, but it's a matter of being a symbolic part of something larger. So please, if you disagree, you have every right to tell us why, just tell us why.