Earlier today I was feeling some sort of way. I was very energetic for a lot of reasons and it manifested itself somewhat chaotically. I'm truly crestfallen to find my attempts to improve your mood came off awkwardly and to find a suggestion on how to listen properly as thanks. I would try to paraphrase how you might be feeling, offer it tentatively for your approval in an effort to make you feel even a little bit understood, and stand back to let you grieve, but because you already know what I'm trying to do it would feel forced. Kind of fake. And I hate fake. Even though I truly am sorry for your loss. And pardon me, I read grammar nazi at first but I see that you wrote nerd. I thought I was just using your words. Here, read this. I hope it helps.