I get that this is a lot harder for others, but it's worth pointing out that the ones who take to the forums, who take to the blogs, who launch their neurosis across any available platform are the ones who haven't figured this shit out yet. Thinking about it now, it kinda pisses me off - if it weren't for scare stories like this, I might have attempted parenthood a long time ago. As it was, all the ZOMG PARENTHUD IS TEH HOLLOCOST articles and blog posts and general whiny miasma of attention seeking martyrs really set my expectations in entirely the wrong place. PROTIP: if it takes having a child to make you realize that you spend too much time on your phone, you're overly self-absorbed. Further, if you need to write about your self-absorption rather than deal with your self-absorption, it's not going to get any better. Just sayin'.