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humanodon  ·  4116 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Tell me about your first love.

I feel like this sort of progression applies to a lot of things, for example, like being a man. I have thought "yeah, I'm really a man now" on many different occasions and when I look back, I realize that I was a kid all along. Maybe it's not a definite line though. I think that if people can progress, then they can regress and that's normal.

It's really amazing what perspective can do.





thenewgreen  ·  4116 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    It's really amazing what perspective can do
Damn straight. I remember thinking I was busy back when I was a single guy because I had a 40-50 hour a week job. Now I work less than 40 and I'm far busier than that version of me could EVER imagine. But I feel less busy. It's odd. It's all perspective.

One of my biggest pet peeves, and I am guilty of it myself, is when people answer the question "How are you?" with "busy" or "tired".

As for "becoming a man," I was just telling someone today that the day my childhood ended was when I held my boyhood dogs head in my lap as he was euthanized. That changed me. I couldn't ever go back.

I'm sure I have linked you to that before though. Sorry for the repeat.

humanodon  ·  4116 days ago  ·  link  ·  

It's cool. Sad, sad story. I think that the end of childhood though, does not automatically shunt us into "being a man." I understand that it is a loaded word, like "love" that means many things to many people, but being a man is a complex thing. I certainly don't envy what girls go through to become women though.

thenewgreen  ·  4116 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    I think that the end of childhood though, does not automatically shunt us into "being a man."
sure, that's certainily true. But kill your dog, hold him in your lap and comfort your sister. These things are pretty grown-up. But I don't think I'll ever feel like a grown up or a "man" completely. I often feel like a kid still, but then there are times when I very much feel like a "man". They tend to revolve around providing for my family, being a father, taking care of my wife etc. cliche, I know.

Alright. I'm off to bed. Have a good one Rico.