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kleinbl00  ·  4361 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: The Lie Hollywood Loves to Tell

See, and by the time I got out of the online dating pool in 2003 EVERYONE had been doing it for a couple years. That shit really hit hard and fast about '99 or so and nobody looked back.

The guy's argument wasn't exactly coherent or well-founded. It was sort of "online dating sucks, it's someone else's fault, so sign up for my website where the drudgery of dealing with the suck of online dating is offloaded onto your friends."





thundara  ·  4361 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    so sign up for my website where the drudgery of dealing with the suck of online dating is offloaded onto your friends."

His solution is pretty shitty, but he does a really good job, imo, of at least picking up on all of the problems. Personally, I don't understand why users are allowed to carpet bomb the other gender with requests. I would at least either rate limit them or make it a offer/accept system, where they are given a suggested candidate and they can choice whether to message them or wait for the next suggestion.

kleinbl00  ·  4361 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Keep in mind that those problems were outlined by OKCupid themselves in a blog post in 2010 (that they pulled when they were bought by Match.com). They're almost a part of the fabric of online dating lingo by now.

thundara  ·  4361 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I have yet to use any online dating service...did OKCupid actually implement any fixes to that problem on their own site?

(That's actually the post that prompted my idea a while ago, just re-saying it now)