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oyster  ·  307 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: The Ridiculous Fantasy of a ‘No Drama’ Relationship

It’s funny, my initial impression of her issue with somebody looking for a “drama free” relationship was the same as in this woman likely is reading too much into what somebody is asking for in that situation. Having said that as soon as she mentioned his dating profile described him as “100% drama free” I immediately grow skeptical.

What I’m going to read into that is that you’ve had a lot of dramatic ex’s, so much so that you feel the need to put it up front row when seeking a new person and then you follow it up with “I was never the problem though” or “ I don’t secretly live for this shit and unconsciously invite it into my life”

I don’t think I would ever think to add no drama or drama free into a dating profile, it would turn me off because that screams that you have a TON of baggage. I grew out of the phase in my life where being told I’m not like other girls or that it’s so much easier to be around me was in any way flattering. Most of the time it just meant you were a doormat with no clear boundaries. So ya, I would be skeptical of both men and women saying they’re soooo over the drama, it all just seems a bit dramatic to me.