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steve  ·  222 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: March 13, 2019

    It's a really weird situation to be in - the mix of taboo and rarity, combined with being the gender that it "shouldn't effect" and the fact that I'm not great with my feelings make it hard to deal with.

I'm glad you can share here. It's a strange culture where this subject is at all taboo. I'm sorry for your struggles. Some very good friends have dealt and are dealing with fertility issues... I guess what I can say is... I'm sorry, and you're not alone, and... we're here for you.

Isherwood  ·  222 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Thanks, I kind of reached a breaking point last month and I'm just bringing it up as much as I can. It makes a lot of people feel awkward, but I figure that's just part of making it acceptable. Plus, a bunch of people will talk to my wife about it because she's a woman, which she's super over, but not me because dudes don't talk about it. I'm getting in the habit of inserting myself in those conversations, which is interesting in its own right.

steve  ·  222 days ago  ·  link  ·  

people sometimes think "oh cool man - that's just MOAR SEX! you must be loving it!"

They don't realize the strange and disheartening aspects of the mechanization of the sex act. It takes an intimate and sacred experience and turns it on it's ear (and not in a fun way).

I'm glad you're talking about it and walking into the conversation. You're wise to confront it.