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OftenBen  ·  3371 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Do you always like being yourself? When do you not like being yourself?

    does anyone like themselves 100% of the time?

Nuance my friend, nuance. It's unhealthy to beat yourself up for every little mistake, but it's also unhealthy to gloss over them all with a big thick coat of 'I'm amazing on the whole so it really doesn't matter what gets fucked up in the process.'





_refugee_  ·  3370 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I feel like what I am asking about is nuance. Liking yourself 100% of the time is not nuanced.

OftenBen  ·  3370 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'd say it's also unhealthy.

A workable and useful truth lies somewhere between constant self-flagellation and ego indulgence.

Personally, I'm working on judging myself by the same standard I judge others. Did you hurt anybody? Did you make someones day a little brighter? Are you working towards things you are passionate about?

_refugee_  ·  3370 days ago  ·  link  ·  

So basically, we agree.

OftenBen  ·  3370 days ago  ·  link  ·  

On the basics it seems.