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comment by edricarica
edricarica  ·  3134 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: My First Month on a Dating Website

I just signed up to one, having not been on one since about 2005.

I keep getting openers with juxtaposed compliment and insult:

(These are translated so excuse the weird phrasing)

"I find you very attractive, but why are you wearing that sweater in the fourth picture? Feel like chatting?"

"You seem charming. You like dogs too much - is that because there's something lacking in your life?"

is this a thing?

If it's a pick-up technique, it's not terribly effective. I think I'd mildly prefer holocause references...





user-inactivated  ·  3134 days ago  ·  link  ·  
lil  ·  3134 days ago  ·  link  ·  

If the person seems otherwise interesting, say this, "Thank you for your message. You seem to be criticizing me. Did you mean to."

Raise the level of awareness one person at a time.