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zebra2  ·  1888 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How to be polite

At first I was expecting to read a piece from some one who is sincerely, genuinely polite—as in someone who genuinely thinks that your job is hard, or that helping celebrities wear jewelry is interesting, or that they hold a conversation simply like to without any underlying game of Raconteur as their motive. After reading through the article I started to get the sense that rather what the author puts forth is a farce. But then, that's sort of what politeness is, right? The fact that you can get something so positive out something rather disingenuous is really intriguing.

Hertha  ·  1885 days ago  ·  link  ·  

i have been a really polite person, but yes that means smiling and laughing if pepole treat you like shit, which is lying. I have been polite until the age of 12, but as I encountered it people get it wrong all the time, mistaking your politness as invitation for harming you. Eventually I stopped, became the opposite. I've walked up to people to tell them I don't like them. this article motivates me to reintroduce a little fake politness. it certainly has its upps

possibly  ·  1888 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Didn't he address that though?

    There is one other aspect of my politeness that I am reluctant to mention. But I will. I am often consumed with a sense of overwhelming love and empathy. I look at the other person and am overwhelmed with joy. For all of my irony I really do want to know about the process of hanging jewelry from celebrities. What does the jewelry feel like in your hand? What do the celebrities feel like in your hand? Which one is more smooth?
zebra2  ·  1888 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Oh I know, but it's interesting that something he can develop true empathy from politeness. Or perhaps he's always been truly empathetic and just doesn't present himself that way.