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user-inactivated  ·  2048 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Speaking up every. Fucking. Time

I went to college on an Athletic Scholarship for football, one of my HS friends went to the same college, only he was in the band. To say those band members treated me like shit would be an understatement.

Should I also run around telling everyone about how terrible and downtrodden I was?

I've had men tell me specifically they were scared of me because I'm a fairly large individual, and I guarantee you it affects the way both men and women react to me.

Should I spend my time feeling victimized for it?

When your point boils down to "there are always interactions that have some sort of bias, but it's nothing huge", then you have no point. We all deal with bullshit. ALL OF US. Being tall, being short, being fat, being ugly, being blonde or brunette, being the child of a rich parent, it all affects the way we interact with people socially, and the way they interact with us.

But we don't go on crusades about how terrible it is, most people just fucking deal with it.

outright anti-female bias is a problem, the issue is that it isn't the problem people like Shanley Kane are actually trying to fight.

And the answer to the article title is the following: no, you don't speak up every. single. time. because when you don't pick and choose your fights, you spread yourself to thin to effectively do anything.





longstocking  ·  2048 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Did you seriously equate being made fun of in college to systematic minority oppression.

For real dude.

user-inactivated  ·  2048 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm a minority, does that make those band members racist?