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user-inactivated  ·  4103 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Who aren't you, Hubski?

I'm not at all who I present on Hubski. I've jawed about this before in earlier posts, but it bears repeating, if not only to myself for purposes of self-improvement. The Hubski me gets a little closer to who I'd like to be. Patient, polite, easygoing, willing to engage. On the other hand, the physical me isn't so goddamn serious. Not reverent of anything, not really comfortable having a conversation that doesn't involve a lot of jokes and salty language.

Both versions of me could talk a lot less. I am not concise.





Kafke  ·  4102 days ago  ·  link  ·  

This is something I find interesting. I act completely different on Hubski than when I'm not. It's as if the bar is just a little higher than where I usually am at. I like to think this lets me strive to be a better person.

I noticed my mindset changed drastically when I joined hubski and purged my reddit of any "bad" subreddits and added all "good" subreddits. My actions are still the same though, which sucks.

user-inactivated  ·  4102 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    I act completely different on Hubski than when I'm not. It's as if the bar is just a little higher than where I usually am at. I like to think this lets me strive to be a better person.

That's not a bad place to be. It's so much easier to be a dick online, where none of your interactions have immediately trackable real-world consequences. If you find that you're being more civil online rather than less, I think it speaks well of your moral character.

I'm just still trying to find that sweet spot between staying civil and not coming off as an insufferably boring blowhard.

nowaypablo  ·  4102 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Do you find yourself being true to who you present yourself as irl?

user-inactivated  ·  4102 days ago  ·  link  ·  

You mean true to my online presentation in real life, or true to real life in my online presentation? In real life, I'm a lot more sarcastic than I am here. But that's because I can gauge my audience and determine whether or not they'll take offense. Harder to do online with relative strangers.

On Hubski I'm a lot drier. Sometimes I find myself wanting to cut loose, but it just doesn't seem like the appropriate venue.

nowaypablo  ·  4101 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I mean true to yourself in your real life presentation ;)

And I know what you mean, I've felt that too, I'm hesitant to crack a joke here :D