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theadvancedapes  ·  4367 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What does being in love feel like to you?

Sex: male Relationship status: just got dumped. Alright, my feelings on love are going to be coming from a slightly darker place, since my girlfriend dumped me about 10 days ago. I'm not sure if I believe in love anymore. Part of me stopped believing in love a while ago, before the end of this relationship, but now it seems to be taking deeper root within me. When I was growing up I believed in love in the most cliche of ways. However, disappointment after disappointment has sort of left me believing that the type of love I had idealized does not really exist. Love seems to be completely conditional on certain things, which I don't like, since this is not the type of love I have wanted to develop. Also, I feel like I've only really experienced what I would define was limerance. After a certain period of time, the girl seems to gradually lose her interest in me. So, I guess what I'm saying is, I may not believe in love because I don't believe anyone else has actually been in love with me, in the truest form of the word. And I find it hard to believe you can be love, when someone else doesn't love you. I would call that more a form of infatuation or obsession. Something else, but not love. However, if I had met someone years ago who loved me the same amount as she loved me when we were in a stage of limerance, perhaps I would be answering this post differently.