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    What I would like to add is that in when you converse in your native language, you use small jokes and wordplays (just pay attention). These small jokes and wordplays lighten up the conversation and make is seem less serious. I think that the absence of these jokes when you speak in another language might also add to the seriousness of the conversation.

My wife often laments this. Her native tongue is Chinese, and she likes to make people laugh. When I watch her speak Chinese, she uses a lot more witticisms. She has said that she feels she can't be her whole self speaking English, especially when multiple people are conversing and it's moving fast.