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user-inactivated  ·  2758 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Shake it up. Offer up one somewhat unpopular opinion that you hold.

    I find it entertaining that you didn't reply to the BDSM question.

Don't give a shit, honestly. Your sex life is the second least interesting thing about you in my opinion. I really do not care who you are having sex with. As long as the people involved are adults and know what they are getting into and not being coerced? Not my concern.

Only time I care is if you are molesting kids or committing rape. My stance on the death penalty is convoluted and tied in knots (most Catholics are opposed, and as a social liberal I've seen too many cases of improper application see https://www.innocenceproject.org/ for a list) but I have zero issues with executing serial rapists and child molesters.

    Taking it out on tattoos just because they're obviously deviant isn't fair.

Didn't say it made sense. When I grew up the only people who got tattoos were military and people on drugs and in prison. "Normal" people simply did not have them. I was taught that the infamous "bad people and others" got those and the "good, moral people" did not. It is a bias I carry with me that I have to fight. I have seen people with tattoos that should be considered works of art, full sleeves etc. And I know that a few people at work have their whole backs done. But the point I was making was that if you have an exposed tattoo it limits choices. Then again I'm the old fart who does not get it and it is possible that by the time the kids today are in charge I'll be the weird guy with no body art.

But, say, look at this guy. Not knowing anything about him, if you saw him walking around you would have assumptions. He may be a very nice person, or he may not. The reality is that how you present yourself is in a way a uniform, a mask. A guy in a suit walks by and you have a core set of assumptions about him. A woman walks by with her hair done nice, good makeup and a dress and you make a core set of assumptions about her. A guy walks buy with a long unkempt beard and a leather jacket with denim pants and there is an assumption made. A guy walks by in a dirty teeshirt and jeans and the same. "Dress for the job you want" is a saying for a reason.

Like i have said elsewhere, go do your thing. Let your freak flag fly. Have fun. But nothing you do is without cost and everything has a consequence, one of which is that you cannot control the thoughts inside someone's brain. The reason we have laws protecting kids and people under 18 is because on aggregate those people do not have the long-term understanding of consequences. As long as you are willing to accept the repercussions, both good and bad, AND HAVE AN INFORMED OPINION OF SAME you should be allowed a great leeway in your personal life.