Just finished S1 myself, I agree with your assessment. There are probably more examples out there but this is definitely by far the most realistic/least betraying representation of hacker culture I've seen(I wonder how Darlene was received on set after her performance as a similar character in The Strain which was more akin to Hackerman)
Elliot resonated with me also, especially the whole thing with the almost invisible line between reality and delusion that has troubled myself in the past.
Have you seen Kali? Haven't tried that particular distro myself but it should give you that hacker feeling(and maybe some NSA attention if you play your cards right!)