I didn't read it that way. Sometimes only friends can ask you the questions you don't want to be asked. My friends and I will often ask each other questions that are actually probing, but would be judgmental if they weren't coming from friends. If you trust her ability to vet her friends, then it might not be shaming, but just friendly sound-boarding and advice. If I had a friend that wanted to have sex but wasn't because she hadn't yet met someone she wanted to marry, I'd definitely tell her to consider to dropping the 'marriage material' requirement if having sex was that important to her. But I do agree, we obsess about sex far too much.Her friends are cunts. They shouldn't be shaming her for not having sex, or saying it has something to do with her that she isn't having sex.