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user-inactivated · 3529 days ago · link · · parent · post: Meta-Communication: Trying to Understand Comments on Hubski
That's a good issue. In my mind, though, you can't really have it "both ways." I genuinely stop caring about people if they act in such a manner that caring about them would hurt me. It's almost tautological, to my mind. I value someone's friendship because it is worth valuing, and then if they insult my music in needlessly hurtful ways, I devalue their friendship. Maybe not in a binary sense from 1 to 0 immediately, but continuously, such that if they needlessly hurt me I assign their opinion a lower impact and the next time they do whatever they did to hurt me, it automatically hurts me less because I care less. Time is all we've got and I choose who I spend mine with very carefully.