A very important skill to have. We are all terrible (manipulative) people to varying degrees and not admitting to that is just as terrible as being terrible. Get outta here with that holier-than-thou complex, asshole. Sigh. Anyways, this seems less like grrlski (not that the tag isn't relevant, Ref) and more like "hey everyone, common sense is fuckin awesome, amirite?" If we're terrible people and our goal is to try and be less terrible, then that would mean being less manipulative, which means not saying "I have a boyfriend", or for guys, not giving those stupid fucking backhanded compliments meant to undermine confidence. What is it called? Negging? What a load of bullshit. The fear of leading people on, on both sides, stems from miscommunication, on both sides.I know when I'm a terrible person.