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Kafke  ·  4038 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: On Seeing the 100% Perfect Girl One Beautiful April Morning, by Haruki Murakami

    Have you not watched Seinfeld?

Nope. Not at all.

    Seinfeld is notoriously picky and has broken up with girls because of, say, the sound of their voice or the way they laugh. Moreover, I posit that they're only bullshit inasmuch as I haven't met someone whose good traits would overpower these perceived negative traits(except for the kid thing - plus, you don't know how bad his teeth were! - possibly further evidence I am Seinfeld).

I find that I have an ideal, and then compare/contrast to that ideal. The closer the match, the more likely I'd date them. But if just one trait is off, yea, that's being just picky :P.

    As for the number of people you've met that you'd consider dating, well, that's cool and good for you? I wasn't leveraging my accusation, as you could term it, at anyone specifically on Hubski.

I realize. I was just responding to your comment. Because I guess from an outside perspective, it looks like I have a lot of ridiculous reasons/standards.

    I've seen it happen in real life and trust me, you can tell when reasons move from the "flippantly spurious" to the "downright ridiculous category."

Ridiculous to you perhaps.

    (which by the way is blatant racism; sure you're allowed to have preferences but if those are based solely on race, it's still racism).

I disagree. You are basically relating racism to dating preferences. I'm not a homophobe because I won't date a male. I have no problems with different ethnicities or sexualities. But I wouldn't date specific ones. That's just personal preference, not racism/homophobia.

    Well then good. Go find thyself both. You're allowed to want what you want and it's also allowed to be different than what I want.

That's what I'm working on.